Humans are created & wired for connection.
The brain is a social organ that requires stimulation and connection to survive and thrive. A brain without connection and sufficient challenge will shrink and eventually die.
Emotional supportive relationships are number one in studies done on longevity, medical & mental health, and happiness. Building authentic connections in personal relationships requires showing vulnerability, active listening, and willingness to be present in the moment. When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we create a safe space for others to do the same, which can lead to deeper connections.
Therefore, face-to-face communication is required.
Signals required for contingent & meaningful communication to create connectedness are the visibility of
Eye-contact
Facial expression
Tone of voice
Posture
Gesture
Timing
Touching
Intensity
Do your “friends” in your virtual space understand your challenges? Yes/No
Do you trust them to make yourself vulnerable? Yes/No
Do you feel emotionally supported by them? Yes/No
You might be drifting in space if you answer “no” to these questions!
You cannot grow by yourself – you either ‘’die’’ in space or get rescued.